just how did we get to this point?

My brother is putting the finishing touches on mother's money being put in a trust. I asked him why this was so important other than obvious, since she will have to go to assisted living. His answer was in case she gets married and the ole coot tries to get her money away from her.  Married? My brother obviously has no sense of reality where his mother is concerned why else would he make a statement like that? I emailed him this week, mentioning mother's foray with a new medicine, that left her incoherent, completely immobile for part of the day, no clear speech and just bewildered. Second email about the fact the assisted living spot has a private suite now available and she could move in very soon.  I got a one sentence email that said we are putting finishing touches on the trust and moving now wouldn't be a good idea. OH YEAH? no name no thanks for taking off work to stay with mother on thursday when she couldn't function, nothing about her health issues.  I write frequently to let him know what is going on and never hear a word.  Why does this frustrate me so, and why doesn't he care enough to do anything to help me? I recently signed 67 savings bonds, copied each of them, recorded them on official paper and mailed them off, registering the mail so it would arrive safely. Only thing he had to say was hurry up and get that money in the bank, and amazingly mother remembered I was working on this and has asked me several times when she was going to get her money. But last weekend she asked me who my mother was....
Dementia has had it's way with me for too long now, I am not liking it one bit.

More BUGS

Mother went to the Dr on Wednesday.  She never tells him anything anymore about what is wrong with her, new or old, I have to prod, and tell him what she has told me that bothers her this visit.  But she did have something to ask him about, she said " I am going to ask him about the bugs." ..... please don't mother, he will just think you are crazy, well I am going to ask him and see if he has them in his house.  So sure enough, he pops back in and she says well... " I want to know if you have little black bugs that hold on to each other and form a perfect circle in your toilet?" Her Dr is so very smart, very knowledgeable about things, he said well no and explained how older people get floaters in their eyes and they can even appear to wiggle making them think they have bugs.  She has found bugs in raisins, says they are packed under the sink, invading her cereal. In the cereal they were at the bottom of the sack and the bottom of her bowl after she had eaten all the cereal and just milk was left.  She said they are in my cereal too! He said has your daughter seen them? " NO, she doesn't believe me."  Well he said if someone else sees them, then they are real, otherwise they are not.  PFFFFFT she replied I am going to save some and bring them to you next time, he snickered and said well make sure they are the ones out of the cereal and not the toilet!! LOL He further told me this can be compulsive/ocd behavior and she might have to have drugs if she continues in this way.  She said you told him not to believe him so that's why he denied knowing they are at his house too.