5 months

It's been five months since mother left to go to assisted living. Trying to do an update in my head. She has steadily gone downhill. Calling her on the phone is painful, she is wallowing in paranoia. She is convinced either another resident or one of the workers is stealing her clothes, her things and attempting to be mean to her everyday. She doesn't talk coherently, repeats herself and just doesn't have the right word for anything much come out of her mouth. I did convince her that I brought her clothes yesterday and they were hers from the house. She didn't like them, said they were rags but she agrees they are hers. That is a miracle! She did say they would be gone in 10 days or less because once the " others " saw them, they would steal them.  Took her to her favorite restaurant and she has never been there before in her life, and has never had a milkshake either. She doesn't remember that I was married for 23 years, or she had a son in law or what his name is, and I said that's okay.. lol .. She does believe Cody just appeared on the scene.
She calls her glasses " chicken glasses, " don't know what that means, couldn't get it out of her.
Financially it's been very tough on me with one weekend's  notice my brother took my mother and cut off the contribution she made to my income. It has been very difficult and would have been nicer to have some advance notice. I am losing my job in June, and it has been difficult to put any money away without the tiny bit that she gave me every month.  It's hard for me to go see her every other weekend because of the gas cost and of course it is a day's activity, which means meals away from home, unless I am going to pack a lunch for myself and my daughter. I cannot take mother out to eat unless I have extra money, we are not allowed to use her credit card for even a meal.  I am told to take her shopping with her card for clothes and of course she is resistant at all ways when we have the time to do this, but that is the only thing I can use the card for so I am ordered.
I am not kept up to date on her health issues and they are doing things that I don't agree with but am not asked my opinion or told either.  I was her complete caregiver for 8 years and know intimately her health issues. Was told did you know that this was caused by????? YES I DID know I was there when it was diagnosed.
On the bright side, my mother is safe, she has gained weight and she is comfortable, albeit it a little mean, paranoid and the dementia rages on to the end.
She will be 90 in May and I wanted to give her a party with invites to relatives out of town, but that will not be allowed. Only a small party at the home. BLAH!
 Does it sound like we are children? Yes I am not a viable part of my mother's life anymore other than visiting her and taking her on unpleasant chores no one else wants to participate in now.