Out of The Loop

Out of the loop is where I am at this moment.  After taking care of my mother for the last 10 years of her life, I no longer am entitled to know if she is hurt, sick or in trouble. I haven't been able to get my mother on the phone for over a week. I finally got her on the phone last night, Sunday.  She said she had been trying to get to the phone, when she got there it was empty and she started crying. This breaks my heart. A Saturday a week ago, I called her room and some aide answered the phone and said mother couldn't talk, she was sitting in her chair with a warm compress on her shoulder.  I was worried, so I called my brother. He informed me that they had indeed taken her to the dr and had xrays. She had said someone in the home "roughed" her up, but I know that didn't happen.  He said they hadn't gotten the results, as the Dr. left before he could read them. WHAT? I asked him to call me with the results. Later in the week after not hearing from anyone, I called and my sister in law informed me that my brother had sent me an EMAIL. EMAIL? YOU CAN'T CALL ME ?????? This is how far life has deteriorated between my brother and myself. I read the email, tendonitis was suspected, she was to have a shot on Monday.  My daughter and myself were not invited up to see my niece and her family this July. They were here for a few days, and I have not even met my new grand niece who is now about 15 months old. I called my brother's house on July 4th and asked my sister in law about my mother and how was her day ( I knew my niece was flying in that day,) going and she said just fine for both. No mention of them or would we like to come up. Plenty of pictures posted on our friend FACEBOOK for me to see some of the activities. Little did my sister in law know, my nephew's wife had already told me about them coming and some of the things they were planning, including a family picture. Did they include the great grandmother? NO.. They visited my mother at least but my niece's husband said my mother didn't recognize her granddaughter or the kids, and no photos were taken as their " phone" was broken.  All of this makes me sad. It depresses me.  On top of all of this my broker who handles my daughter's college fund reported to my brother and his wife that I had taken funds from the account. This goes against policy and as of today I am closing the account with someone that was a family friend and supporter to my mother. This is a breach of confidentiality and it's none of their business what I do with the money my parents left for my daughter. My father would want me to do what I needed to do with that money including paying for my a/c if that is the only money at my discretion. My brother hasn't inquired about my financial situation since my mother left. He hasn't asked about my mental health, my physical health or even about his niece. 
My daughter has days when it makes her very sad, that she has no family per se. My brother and his wife have no interest. My ex's family hasn't called my house 1 time in 9 years since our divorce to talk to her. Their niece, their granddaughter. sighs...