The third person in the house isn't having an easy time dealing with the declining mental health of her grandmother. While I realize at 16 1/2 most are only interested in themselves to the nth degree and this is so in my household. I raised a beautiful, intelligent daughter, but she is just about as selfish as she can be at this point and it's not the time for that. I am trying to find an assisted living facility for my mother and she knows this, has been with me, she wants to be actively involved in this decision. But she cannot keep the contempt, the frustration out of her mouth when she speaks to her grandmother. No respect for the age, no respect for the relation. I feel very close to backhanding at least once a day. Yesterday her grandmother needed to go the bathroom. We were downtown and its a busy place at lunchtime on Friday, small town downtown. Not alot of parking or options for the bathroom, I suggested she get out with her grandmother and I would circle, no go. She had a 3 year old tantrum about how she is tired of taking her grandmother to the bathroom and refused. I explained I would have to find a place to park, park, maneuver mother out of the car, take her in and then repeat the reverse process of getting her in the car. She didn't care, she proceeded to shriek. She even commented she's wearing a depends she can go in there. So inappropriate, only good thing is that her grandmother didn't hear her. Although all the yelling makes mother very nervous and she threatens to jump out of the moving car. Fine, we will drive home, 20 minutes and the errands downtown will be cancelled. She continued to yell, I pulled over my car and physically removed her from my backseat and made her stand on a sidewalk beside the car for 10 minutes. When she got back in, she said " YOU REALIZE I COULD HAVE BEEN TAKEN??? YOU WOULD NOT BE ABLE TO GET OUT OF THE CAR..." " YOU DONT KNOW HOW EMBARRASSED I AM?" Truly I am at wits end with this, I don't know how to help her, soothe her or make her understand it's just something we have to endure till it is over. As a result of not wanting to be helpful, she lost her facebook account, her phone and is not allowed to use my electricity to charge her ipod touch. If you don't want to be a part of the family, then the things I pay for will be mine!
Being in the middle is not the best spot, being on either end isn't either. The only spot that is okay is my brother's 100 miles away and not having to deal with any of this. Which opens another whole can of worms... squiggly and messy.
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